Monday, December 22, 2008
I suggest you guys also read this article, http://beyonduni.blogspot.com/2008/08/ciri-ciri-aktiviti-sebuah.html
If you read the article I suggested before, you have seen me argued that all student activities must have certain criteria. But I like to discuss some of the criteria again with further clarity.
I see a lot of clubs having no objective. They would waste time like on things the students don’t want or need like forcing students to put slippers in their rooms, traditional games day and etc, while issues like motorcycle safety, quality of activities are abandoned. Study your vision and mission. If it’s not good, remake them. From there, setup your clubs goal. It’s important for the club’s leader to create synergy between the organization/club and members of the club.
It would also be good for you to construct your own KPIs (Key Performance Indicators), a measurement of the club’s success. For example, the club must have 50 active members. Usually, students are afraid to make goals because they are afraid their club would fail. Students clubs also do not make their members accountable for their work, which make students have a half-assed attitude towards doing the activities.
And for those people who waste time jadi ajk makanan, ajk perhiasan and all that meaningless crap. Start to do something that contribute to your personal development or professional development. You think when you are collecting sijil banyak2…sijil presiden ini, sijil activity itu, baguih sangat…read this post…
I see, especially in college, where people group themselves in too many gangs. Usually, these people do things together a lot and rarely mix around with others. They would usually join the same activities. Like I said in the video, it’s not good in getting new perspectives and experience. Like I said in the video, if the organizer is same college, the facilitator is same college, and even the delegates are the same college, wtf? I apologize to my college friends, for not taking part in your activities, you might see me as arrogant but the fact I am don’t have time and I don’t really want to join your activities. (sweat…hope that didn’t sound too harsh) Anyway, AIESEC is a very intense experience with the way we are taught to run it like a company. But I do not regret it one bit because if I were to join some secretariat or MTM in college, I would learn nothing and not be what I am now. (Don’t get me wrong, the MTM exels only when there is a strong person leading it, which was not in my case) See my friends post about his experience as an AIESECer and AIESEC Malaysia’s blog. People might say AIESEC is an elite club, but we never meant it to be that way. We are not Golden Key. Click here to see what AIESEC is all about. I chose to stay at AIESEC because it has all the criteria I said that is needed for students excel. Actually, I based those criteria on my observation of AIESEC. I think people say AIESEC is elite, because you can see that AIESECers are a bit above other students (maybe except in CGPA like in my case :p) because the ‘syllabus’/experiences we go through in AIESEC changes us to be that way. Okay, enough on AIESEC, dun wan people say I promote AIESEC pulak.
There are more I like to say about this issue but I want to keep it short today. Feel free to contact me if you want to know more on my theories of student club management. That's all
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Part 1: the food issue
Part 2: Student clubs and organizations
Part 3: Student Politics
Part 4: the last lecture
Here's some additional stuff i wanna talk about this issue. Every student is complaining about food prices and food quality. It had been going on for years and it will continue for years to come. For candidates of the coming student election, rather than wasting time creating bombastic manifestos full of ideological and fanciful BS, student should just focus on this issue and convince us you can solve this problem.
But I wouldn’t put all the blame on student leaders. In the video above, one of the things that the MPP had tried to do was trying to reduce the rent so price of food would be cheaper. Unfortunately, it didn’t happen. I put the blame on the main contractor. The party that is sub-contracting to all the small café operators. I think the main contractor must not be so strict and give some consideration to students. After all, they practically have no cost incurred when they sub-contracted everything. Even the cost of building the cafes is already a sunk cost. I hope this party has a conscious to consider our situation as students. As far as I can see, sub-contracting everything is not a business but exploitation, yes; I’m also talking to all the Ali Baba construction people. I mean, if you’re just sub-contracting everything than you’re not learning to become a better company, you’re just taking advantage of situations. I hope I can see these people and ask what is really going on. Right now, I really think these people are greedy people who suck out the life of students by just being well connected. But I will try to remain objective, if contradictory news about it surfaces.
Rather than just blaming other people like Malaysians always do, why not I give some suggestions. Again in the video, another effort of the MPP was to have a value plan for students. As far as I understand, it was to have the cafes to reduce price for a meal that consists of the basic food groups. If it’s wrong, forgive me. But I suggest another tactic for the value plan. Every meal time, one and only one dish is priced lower than it should be normally. It might not taste as good other dishes, but at least people have a choice, price or taste. And it’s only one dish, maybe two, one meat one vegetable. Another, way is too charge people less than normal, and charge more for people who buy more than normal. For example, normally you would pay a dish a meal with 1 meat and one vegetable cost RM4, so my idea is for cafes to charge the same meal RM3 and when somebody wants to add another dish it will cost more than usual. This way, there is a choice between extra food and price. Of course, there are pros and cons but I’m just giving my two cents of ideas.
No matter what ideas I come up with it is still susceptible to political effect. Seriously, Malaysia is too over-politicized in every field and every level. I’m getting sick of it. Maybe I would write a post titled “Unnecessary politics in Malaysian governance”. Anyway, what I’m trying to say there is not enough political will to solve this issue. “Political Will” I’m sure you guys hear this term a lot, please don’t associate me with any political party, mature a bit la. I’m not being political, I’m critical. We have been chasing stuff like ‘Apex University’, doing fancy projects, forcing students to join random activities but we fail to cater to these basic needs. We are what we eat, so imagine this. We are trying to improve our university’s standing, be the best in the world, but our leaders cannot understand that what are at the core towards this dream are students. With this quality of food, that we are feeding ourselves, our brain enough nutrition? You won’t see me pushing away my food, but I just want to say before even thinking about big things about UPM, think about the students basic needs, no need fancy-fancy and flashy stuff for us.
Another thing, is that the focus on students was never in UPM administration’s management system, as far as I know, even if it does, it’s not working. I feel there are no KPIs for student’s welfare. For those who don’t know, KPI means Key Performance Indicators. Every professional organization has a set of KPIs. Examples: 30% profit growth, open two more business premises, reduce inventory cost by 20% and etc. UPM has KPIs too (AIESEC also have KPIs, lol, wanna promote AIESEC a bit). But there are no KPIs that represent students need like “reduce food price to RM3”, although my example is not that good but something like that, a KPI that forces management to take students seriously. A mentality and attitude change is needed. I have a friend who wants to recheck his paper, and the clerk lady gave a sigh and “pandang slack” (dunno wat in English) as if my friend was bothering her, but my friend already paid the fee and after all, it was her job, her responsibility. What kind of attitude is that?! But enough of that, the point is that management should see students as leaders of tomorrow, and not just lip-sync it as great tag line for good publicity.
Before I get too emotional about this issue, I guess I should conclude by saying that unless an attitude and mentality to change of management towards university students happen, then no solution can be achieved about this food crisis issue. Goodbye, and don’t forget to come back to see more issues discussed with sabrie.
Friday, December 5, 2008
Being you is important. Yeah, I’m sure you heard this before in motivational talks, cheesy, feel good, children movies. But it is still important. Usually, the need to be yourself would be most evident when you are under pressure and in conflict. If you are in a weaker position then another party then you are easily influenced to follow the stronger party either by provocation, intimidation or just as an act of avoiding conflict. However, this causes the weaker party to follow the stronger part even though if it is the wrong thing to do. This is where integrity and character plays its part.
There is an easy way and a right way to everything. In order to see the difference, you must have the integrity of the heart towards ethical behavior, and the intelligence and objectivity of the mind to choose the right decision. You see, usually the hardest thing to do is actually the right thing to do. So, when you face a dilemma remember these things. Somebody would do something the easy way, but that’s not an excuse for you to the easy way too, because the easy way is not worth it. Do things for the right reasons. For me, one way to identify is something is ethical is just a simple of process asking me, if someone else would do it to me, would I like it. Only with a strong grasp of ethics or religion would ensure our integrity, then would we be able to push away the lure of corruption.
But most of the time people get influenced by something that is more innocent in nature. Have you heard the word “peer pressure”? We are easily influenced by our friends and colleagues. Even, in consumer behavior studies, there is known something as opinion leaders. They are a group of people, who are approached by their friends and families for their opinions. Sometimes it’s just hard to say no to your friends. But some things you must be firm about, even to your friends. I hear so many times, individuals chasing after their peers approval and recognition. Agreeing to everything your peers say is not the way to get their approval. And that is what most people do. But this is a matter of character.
Character is a big part of our identity and it also determines how we react to our situations. Character is shaped by nature and nurture. By nature I mean genetics, and nurture I mean by our experiences. We cannot change much that is given by Mother Nature, but we can control our experiences. Our friends, our curricular activities, our education, our hobbies are the things we can control. What is important is to acquire experience INTERACTING with the people and issues that we are passionate in, and doing them for the right reasons.
I’m proud to be myself, and you should too. And not let anyone says otherwise about you. After all, you are what you think you are. So, BE YOU.
Saturday, November 29, 2008
I was planning with a group of my friends to think of a way to promote one of our projects. This friend of mine suggested posters, email, website and etc. Mediocre answers but the truth is even I could not think of a better answer. But what’s wrong is once we identified what we do, we failed to think of how to use posters, emails and website the best way possible. For example, we should ask how to make interesting posters, how to make the email not boring or how to get people to come to the website. These questions are much more important questions because they are relatively harder to answer. Especially, us students who are lacking experience. Too many times, have I seen student leaders explaining the wondrous things they will do during their term. To do this project, that project but ultimately nothing of it will be done. The truth is these people should follow-up their decision by thinking of the specific details needed to do what they plan to do. At the end of the day, it’s not the decision to use the posters that make the difference; it’s how well you use the posters that make the difference. And the best way to learn to do so is stop planning and start doing because that’s better than doing nothing. You need to know when to stop planning. It is when after you have done your planning to a point that there is too much uncertainty that there is nothing more that can be discussed until the uncertainties are certain. After that, prepare for the worst, hope for the best.
This principle also applies in entrepreneurship. See the difference between McDonald and your typical roadside burger stall, what’s the difference? The difference is everything. From how McD promote and advertise them, how they make the burgers and fries, how there is a system that ensures customers get quality food, at the right time at acceptable prices. So you see, selling drinks and kerepek at roadside stalls doesn’t make you an entrepreneur. Yes, you know who I am talking about. So anyone can crap about having new ‘ideas’ but what are they are really doing are repeating mediocre and expected answers that failed during implementation.
Most ideas are influenced from ordinary existing concepts and rarely pure revolutionary ideas come into being, so innovation mostly happen when you are implementing, the need forces you to be creative. Have you realized ideas never come when you want to? Well, they rarely do. So if you cant think of something really revolutionary to do than focus on how to what you’re supposed to do in the best way possible. It’s not what you do, but how you do it.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
• Constantly trying to get approval from your friends and peers
• Being so proud of yourself having a big post in a club
• Being so stubborn not to admit something where you are really wrong
All of these are symptoms of you trying to achieve something in life. It’s not bad on its own but it is if we do it for the wrong reasons.
We all desire love, a sense of belonging and affection from others. We all desire to be desired. But sometimes, we are heartbroken, betrayed and neglected by the people we love for many reasons. We have sacrificed so much but it still happen. We all, more or less faced with this and the experience is not pleasant. How can we be happy if we can easily be hurt? I give you a solution. A friend of mine said a relationship should be where both parties should learn and benefit from each other. He was talking about love, but I think it can be applied to any kind of relationship. So, if you are not learning, enjoying and appreciate with the people you love, maybe that relationship is not really working for you. Strive for the kinds of friends where all parties grow and learn together, I’m sure they’re hard to find, but I think they’re worth it. You won’t find them, if you think your friends should be like angels, like in my previous post, no one’s perfect but go for it anyway.
We all want Status, Power, and Recognition. We want to get Anugerah Diraja, we want to be President of a club and we want to be praised by our peers. We all want to be special. Unfortunately, most of the time, people will get too obsessed with chasing power and status. We become arrogant, ignorant, power hungry and blind to the needs of others. Power corrupts. There are so many cases where leaders become corrupted with power. See the story of Maximilien Robespierre and his history in the French revolution. Also don’t forget what happened to the Vatican, which caused the creation of the Protestant church. No offense for the religious reference, but understand this. We are flawed, not the religion, not the political concepts, it us humans.
Also, when you put so much effort on something, when you do reach the top what would you do? You feel empty. This happens to some of the really rich people, chasing so much money only to wonder what they will use the money for. So what is our salvation?
Observe the top most section of the Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Self-actualization: Personal Growth and Fulfillment. That is the answer. We just need to focus our time and efforts in developing ourselves. Don’t care about having no friends. I’m sure you will find great people as your friends, on your journey on self-improvement. You don’t need to care about recognition, getting ‘apex university’ title or a ‘datukship’, just focus on growing. Anyway, I’m sure you get titles and recognition along the way. Heck, just look at Shah Rukh Khan, he got a title from a country that I wonder have he ever heard of. We must be passionate in developing ourselves. This is the noblest cause. This is what I mean as ‘Doing Things for right reasons’ not money, not status, not shallow friends but the lifelong pursuit of knowledge and wisdom.
So, I know what it takes to be special, what do you need to be special?
PS: The pictures are for aesthetic purposes only, no negative association intended
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse
you of selfish, ulterior motives,
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends
and some true enemies
If you are
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building;
If you find serenity and happiness,
they may be jealous,
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today,
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have,
and it may never be enough,
Give the world the best you got anyway.
You see in the final analysis,
it is between you and god,
It is never between you and them anyway.
Thank you Randall, Randall inserted the picture and made them look better. I wanted to do the same thing but malas lar...lol
Nationality : Malaysian
Date of Birth : 29th September 1987
Age : 21
Sex : Male
Qualification : Bachelor of Business Administration,
Major : Marketing Major
Universiti : Universiti Putra Malaysia
Current CGPA : 3.25
Core Competencies : Management, Economics, Marketing
Malaysian Leadership Development Seminar (MyLDS) Marketing Executive
• Responsible to find sponsorships and in-kind to support the national level conference financially or in any other way
• Brainstorm, create and propose promotion/branding opportunities to potential sponsors and partners
• Constant communication with our partners and sponsors before and after the conference
Miracle Youth Conference ’08 Facilitator
• Design the program flow for the whole 5-day 4-nights conference which considers timing, session content, the audience and etc.
• Facilitating and managing a session to a group of 150 delegates
• Research prior to the conference about the theme which was about entrepreneurship and environmental awareness.
Vice President of Administration, AIESEC Universiti Putra Malaysia
• Responsible for all communications between the student organization and the student affairs department; and the relevant work of proposals, document processing and etc.
• Responsible to meet all logistical needs of the organization which includes equipments, venues for activities, resources and etc.
• Responsible for documentation and management of the Knowledge and Information in the organization.
Miracle ’07 Interactive School Program Director
• Responsible to find secondary schools to participate in the program
• Responsible to get all necessary letters and approvals from the relevant ministries
• Facilitated and managed the smooth interaction between school teachers, students and foreign participators of the project.
Skills and Proficiencies
Administrative : Microsoft Word, Excel
Presentation/Multimedia : Microsoft Power point, Windows Movie Maker
Communications : Mozilla Firefox, Internet, e-mail, instant messengers
English : Spoken and written
Band 5, Malaysian University English Test. (Highest level is Band 6)
Bahasa Malaysia : Spoken and Written
Facilitating : Experienced in creating, and conduction sessions with the following topics, Personality test, Goal Setting & Expectation Setting, Time Management, Leadership & Management, Critical Thinking, Effective Brainstorming, Communication and Presentation skills.
According to the Myer-Briggs Test Indicator, the description below shows the relevant details of my personality:
Warmly, Enthusiastic and imaginative. See life as full of possibilities. Make connections between events and information very quickly, and confidently proceed based on the patterns they see. Want a lot of affirmation from others, and readily give appreciation and support. Spontaneous and flexible, often rely on their ability to improvise and their verbal fluency.
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Everybody using my tagline...u think i care?
YES I DO!!!
lol, what la u guys...
For you who don't know it happened when immy, weewee, mei shan, may and me went to eat at murni. We were watching Nivea's 'Ultimate Prom King an Queen' show, forgot the exact show's name. And all the contestants were promoting themselves how handsome, beatiful and sexy they were. And i just said as if i'm pretending i'm a contestant, "I'm not good looking...U THINK I CARE!!!"
Not really a real post...lol, maybe tomorrow would have one
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Even if you're a hyper-organized, task-oriented worker with an expansive mind and endless ambition, you won't get a lot done if your mind and body are demanding you curl up and doze off. Luckily, you can overcome a late night of net surfing, a rough morning, or just the post-lunch stupor without becoming an over-wired mess. We've put together 10 of the best ways to jumpstart your brain and get back into a productive groove, and all of them are tricks you can put to work this Monday. Photo by neps.
10. Make your own energy products.
If you're going to resort to a brick of grains and protein to give you short-term "power" or "energy," you may as well have it be cheap—and tastier than those foil-wrapped roofing tiles. Same goes for re-hydrating drinks, which can be easily mixed at home. Foodie extraordinaire Alton Brown has recipes for three different home-baked bars, as does About.com's Sports Medicine section. Of course, there's always the free stuff flowing from the tap for true replenishment.
9. Listen to brain-stretching music.
Among other tips offered up by software programmer Brad Isaac for beating "brain drain," the exhaustion that comes from sustained concentration, is working a little Mozart or Bach into your playlist. There's no overly hook-y melody to pull your mind away, and the harmony of so many instruments together relaxes your mind. Strings and brass not your thing? Try the non-intrusive, up-tempo ambient of Groove Salad.
8. Deal with job burnout.
Even if you're generally happy with your job, the people you work with, and the work you're doing, small annoyances and responsibilities can build up over time, until a dark, angry cloud hangs over you seven and a half hours per day. Seriously—feeling overwhelmed by your tasks was the second most frequent response in our poll on energy zappers. The Simple Dollar blog recommends scheduling an immediate vacation to take care of piling-up home stuff and set your mind free. Web Worker Daily suggests finding a new project. However you handle burnout, keeping an even head about your job gives you a lot more energy to spend on stuff that's a lot more fun.
7. Schedule around your energy peaks.
Writer and speaker Michelle Dunn describes herself as "very organized," but there are times of the day she just can't be productive. So when she's about to hit a lull—like right after lunch—she schedules errands and tackles non-thinking tasks, and otherwise schedules around her energy. Of course, not everybody can just run off to Target whenever they're feeling blah, so 43 Folders honcho Merlin Mann explains subtle ways to work inside your schedule.
6. Get outside—even if it's cloudy.
Even if you live in one of those areas with perma-gray skies for two-thirds of the year, getting outside every day can give you a vitamin D boost and the resulting mood and energy improvements. The National Institutes of Health recommends getting 10 to 15 minutes of sun each day, and a layer of sunscreen if you're getting more. Even better, you get away from the screens, voicemails, and low-level humming of the office.
5. Crank out some morning exercises.
You know those mornings where you have to get right up and do something with a deadline? The groans about coffee and sleep fall away, and you usually get it done. Give yourself a now-now-now pushup cycle right after your breakfast, and you might just shake off your sluggish self-doubt and get moving. If you're looking to get more out of your morning time, personal trainer Dan Boyle offers a two and a half minute core routine that'll definitely leave you aware that you're awake. Photo by whyld.
4. Eat the right nutrition mix.
Sugar and bread give you a quick jolt of energy, but ultimately result in an insulin-powered crash later in the day. Too much meat doesn't give you enough of the quick-firing stuff. Balancing out your lunch, instead of just eating leftover pasta, can have a big impact on your day, according to the Harvard School of Public Health Nutrition Source. As Lifehacker guest editor (and current io9 editor) Annalee Newitz puts it:
Remember, carbs come in fruits and veggies as well as grains. And you can get protein from meat, dairy, fish, eggs and beans (like soy or pinto). The perfect lunch might be veggies with fish (mmm, nicoise salad, anyone?), and the best snack an apple with a little cheese.
It's also not a bad idea to keep the heavy meals for morning to ensure better sleeping patterns.
3. Put your senses to work.
If you're stuck at work after a rough night, chances are you'll be staring at a hypnotizing screen or look-alike paperwork and finding it hard to stay awake. WikiHow suggests a multi-sensory assault on your tired self. Try scenting yourself awake with some essential oils of (or just strong scent of) peppermint or rosemary, or target the alertness-sparking stress points like your earlobes and the skin between your thumb and forefinger. Keep yourself a little chilly, and try to move around a bit—it's your best shot at not having the boss notice you haven't said a word since 9AM. Photo by cote.
2. Switch from venti to smaller caffeine doses.
Slamming half a carafe of coffee to get alert and productive is kind of like pounding a six-pack to get social and funny—you're going to miss your mark, in often painful ways. Research suggests that small, frequent doses of caffeine—like tea breaks, caffeinated mints, and even chocolate—do a better job of keeping your brain from feeling fatigued than jitter-inducing java. Of course, if you've got the willpower and patience, you could also just drink half-cups of coffee more frequently. Photo by ToOb.
1. Master the power nap.
Taking a nap isn't calling it quits on getting energized—it's just running a quick defrag on your neural drive and rebooting. We've covered the ins and outs of napping pretty thoroughly here, but if you need a quick take-away, try the Boston Globe's comprehensive cheat sheet. If shut-eye alone can't bring you back, try a coffee-charged caffeine nap.
9:00 AM on Sat Sep 27 2008
By Kevin Purdy
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Everything you do must do, must be for the right reasons, understand? Talk only can lard…lol. But anyway, I will give my perspective of this issue. Hopefully, at the end of this post we can identify why we do things for the wrong reasons, and how to identify the ‘right’ reasons.
Why do we make mistakes in relationships, academics, careers and etc? Is it because of lack of information? Maybe, but that is more technical in nature, we can always find information, it’s just of matter is it accurate or enough for us to make the decision. But what determines how much you are willing to sacrifice to get the information? Is it passion, determination and willpower? What I’m trying to say is that our emotion is the controlling factor not information. For example, there’s that your boyfriend is dating someone else, depending on HOW you see it or the TRUST you have together would determine your actions. If you do not trust your boyfriend what will you do, and if not it would be different, right? We must be objective in analyzing information and making our decisions. Imagine if you let your emotion cloud your Judgment about the rumor of your relationships, you would be ruining a good relationship. Other emotions would include greed (corruption), lust (infidelity) and arrogance (power hungry)
We have expectations of many things. Remember my previous post about ‘how to say no’? In it, it says we cannot say no because we don’t want to disappoint people or need to live up to people’s expectation of you. A lot of people crave from other people’s approval and recognition, and would let that get in the way of making good decisions. I’m not talking about friends. If you NEED recognition and approval from your ‘friends’, then, they’re not friends. Friends accept you, strong and weak points, and learn and grow together. I’m not asking you to stop, having such relationship. I’m just saying the only person you need approval and recognition, is yourself. Like what a guru said in Mike Myer’s The Love Guru said, “Self love, is more important than being loved by others” or another way of saying, you can’t get others love you until you learn to love and appreciate yourself.
I was talking the need of approval on a personal level, but it also happen on a higher level. It’s not a surprise; after all, Maslow’s hierarchy of needs puts the need of affiliation and status quite high up there. Even as university students we see many clubs and student organization want to big projects. They want to invite VIPs, opening dinner at high class place that does not add value to their members. Even we see management they doing the same thing. They want name and status, like apex-university status, for example. Anugerah ini, anugerah itu. Buy fancy expensive cars, too much branded clothing; too show off, that kinda thing. Bottom-line, a lot of people do it ‘for show’ only.
So how do you know whether you are doing the ‘right’ things? Make sure you have sincerity and transparency when you make that decision. How do you know you are sincere? Only you yourself can answer that. If you are not transparent and honest with the decision you make, that means you have a conflict of interest. You don’t want to tell the whole story because you want things to go your way. This is wrong. If you’re a club president, the choices you make must benefit your club not just you. If the decision is personal, you must do it sincerely and do not expect anything in return.
How many times we have seen people making wrong or even worse corrupt choices. These are the people who let emotion and unjust expectations cloud they’re judgment. Emotions are not easy to control; though they are what make us humans. There are many grey areas of discussions in the world, but as long we have sincerity and honesty in our choices, then we don’t need to worry because that time, it will be a choice between two good things and just a matter of choosing the better alternative. All is well.
Saturday, November 1, 2008
- We say "yes"to others because we want to please them. But when eventually we can't continue, we let them down and we feel guilty. Both parties suffer. Recognize that a desire to please often prevents us from saying no.
- Stick to your plan. If you have a written set of goals and strategies, this gives you a reason to stick to your course. ("Thanks, but I already have an investment plan, so you don't need to send me a newsletter about stocks.")
- When someone persists, repeat your position, perhaps in a slightly different way. ("As I already said, our policy is to donate to charities that help children only.")
- Make sure you understand exactly what is being asked of you before you respond. Perhaps the task is more time consuming than you thought. On the other hand, it may not take much effort at all.
- Excel at just a few things, rather than being just average at many. Don't try to do everything.
- You have a right to say no. Remember that others may take you for granted and even lose respect for you if you don't.
- Be polite, but firm in saying no. You only build false hopes with wishy-washy responses. For instance, the phrase "I'll try to be there" in response to a party invitation is giving yourself an excuse to avoid a commitment. It doesn't do anyone any favours.
- When a superior asks you to do a new urgent task;
- Remind her that you are working on other projects that she has already identified as top priorities
- Ask for help in deciding where the new task should fall on the list of priorities
- Point out that you might be able to do everything, but not to the usual high standards that are expected.
- Some experts recommend keeping your answer short. This way, you can say no without feeling the need for a lengthy justification. ("I'm sorry, I'm not available that night.") On the other hand, others say that giving a longer answer with reasons reinforces your credibility. Let the situation decide.
- Provide suggestions or alternatives to the person who is asking. ("I can't do that task today, but how about next week," or "How about asking John instead?")
- When in doubt, it's easier to say no now, then change your mind to a yes later, rather than the other way around.
When You Have to Say Yes
- Sometimes, saying no is simply unavoidable. Here are some techniques to use:
- Tell the person you can agree to their request this time, but ask how the two of you might plan better for the next time.
- Tell them yes, but remind them they owe you one. For example, they might cover you for a shift next time you need time off.
- Tell them yes, but take control by saying you'll come back to them with a timetable. For instance, say, "I expect I'll be able to do that for you by the end of the week."
- Put a tough condition on your agreement. "If it would only take an hour, I'd be able to help, but I can't give you more than that."
This text is taken from www.getmoredone.com, go visit their site, lots of useful articles, i hope they dont mind me posting this article. Then again, in turn im promoting them...lol
Friday, October 24, 2008
"Objectives are not commands; they are commitments. They do not determine the future; they are means to mobilize resources and energies of an organization for the making of the future," Peter Drucker.
It has been a while since I made a post that wasn’t copy-pasting some other article. A lot of work, final year projects, assignment and co-curriculum activities. Don’t we all? Anyway, talking about co-curriculum activities, I was on a committee that was supposed to design a project for a student organization in UPM. I said supposed because the committee wasn’t moving much recently, at least I’m sure I’m not. And also a few weeks ago, I had a discussion with the president of this organization about a similar topic, which was how to improve the projects. Unfortunately, I haven’t made any suggestions or solutions. And so I went back home after the discussion feeling I owe them an answer, a good one at that too. But I had nothing in my brain, and I felt quite disappointed. However, my answer came a few days ago.
My answer came in the form of a lecture from my Operations Management Class. The topic on the day was about supply chain and logistics. He told us about how easy it was to manage supply chain with the invention of the internet, information technology and so many management models to help companies in this matter. But what was profound to me is he said, that even with all those technologies in place, a supply chain requires 3 ‘soft’ factors, which are: trust, commitment and communication. It had an impact on me, because I was spending hour learning about the topic, and then suddenly learnt that such things relied on 3 such simple things that weren’t part of any system that is in our syllabus. Only then I realized about that everything we are learning is ‘hard’ factors. So today, I will give an answer to my friend about how to improve projects with the perspective of these ‘soft’ and ‘hard’ factors.
Let us begin, it started with my statement that the project is having high expectations, and the experience of the member should be the ultimate priority and not exchange numbers. From there, me and my president friend about Organizing Committee (OC) Hierarchy, job descriptions and Education Plans; and they’re role as solutions to my statement. The core of the problem is about how we make sure that people would commit, not too much departmentalization, not making our members feel like they’re doing work, how to make members competent and contribute to the project.
However, a Hierarchy or chain of command, education plan, job descriptions are ‘hard factors’. They are the things you do to create ‘soft factors’ that you need to reach your objective. For example, you have a chain of command (hard factor), it is there so that the team can ‘work together and stop quarrelling’ (soft factor) because there is a leader. However, the solution I discussed with my president friend does not create ‘soft factors’ in solving the core problems that stated earlier. Having a hierarchy does not solve the problem of commitment, having education plans or any plans does not ensure that your OC follows it, and proper division of work through job description does not ensure that the member won’t feel like they’re doing work. But don’t get me wrong, all those steps are important and must be used; I’m just saying you’re digging too much in the wrong whole.
What is the solution? Remember the core problems stated above:
How we make sure that people would commit? How to make not too much departmentalization happen? How not to make our members feel like they’re doing work?
This is a matter of commitment, and because it is internal, it is the hardest to manipulate, however, we can make it reduce the motivation for members to leave by making reasons to stay. Bonding is the answer. Yes, I know, we’ve done this before, everyone tried. But where we lack is make it compulsory, consistent and impactful. Make it a JD of a leader, make it a culture, do anything as long you make it happen. I’m not talking about the occasional mamak. I’m talking about a day out like playing kites…Lol, or a game basketball. Make it personal, make it enjoyable. It can be as simple as inviting a few people out thru facebook. It can be integrated into the education plan. Hopefully, this will divert the stress when it is most, create a sense of belonging and purpose and serves an avenue to interact regardless of department. Oh yeah…that reminds me, the bonding suppose to solve departmentalization so don’t forget to ask everyone.
How to make members competent and contribute to the project?
An education plan is a must wherever, whenever and whoever it is. But your problem lies in the method of information sharing, and commitment to implement it. Bonding should solve the problem of commitment, should anyway. The best way is to have hands on tutoring, like when you learn to drive you need an instructor in the car, same also here, but only for the first few times. I know this requires more commitment which makes it harder. But again document (information management) can be utilized to support this, this is IM (information management), they are to support not to become teachers themselves.
But my solutions require more time or manpower, you might say. I say that our lacking in investing our resources this way has caused enormously in our failures. When I say failures, I’m saying about the difference between mediocre and great. Our projects are reasonably well, but there are always glitches and problems, right? This is the key to take it to next level. I believe, this is the 'foundation' that you said you wanted at the beginning of the your term. I understand that doing so will cause you not to set high expectation for your projects. Well, I understand. For your information, I will remain skeptical to high expectations until a detailed plan (and the assurance it will be followed) is given, or proven by actually doing it. Though I may remain skeptical, I will support it, after all, it is your project.
To end, I will say that these are the answers that I can come up with. The choices you will make upon reading this are yours and yours alone. I did not influence you, I intend not to by writing this neither post, nor do I intend you will be influence but I do expect you read it and ponder upon it, and respect it as the advice for which you sought me for. Like I have said before, you make the decisions, and as for me on the sidelines, is to give my support. I hope this would be sufficient in compensating for my inactiveness in the projects committee. That’s all for now.
Monday, October 20, 2008
The systems are creating politicians who talks but not leaders like CEOs who manage and motivate. You will have talkers saying “we must equip ourselves with soft skills and bla…bla…bla…” but these people have no idea how to do so, how to design an activity to reach this objective, and how not to make it a random activity. Read http://beyonduni.blogspot.com/2008/08/ciri-ciri-aktiviti-sebuah.html
I see Malaysia has a very unhealthy culture of over-politicking at every level and field of our society. This is a dangerous trend, especially to be seen in the student organizations. You see, we are teaching talkers and not thinkers. Imagine, a country where the loudest would win, and when the citizens don’t trust the government they would turn to blogs and believe everything in there without thinking rationally. Because we are not teaching our people to THINK but we are teaching our people to TALK. Ask ourselves why we can paste poster, spread leaflets and manifestos if we can ensure that students have cheap healthy foods, unquestionable supply of water and electricity, comfortable living conditions and a proper learning environment. Students don’t care about Pro-M, Pro-U, PMI, and MPP or not. We just want the stuff I mentioned earlier are met. And I’m DEAD SURE all UPMers are facing those issues to a certain extent. If we cannot guarantee theses necessities, do we need to think about ideologies and political standing?
MPP and MTP must change its view point from being the student “government” to a “corporation”. A corporation that supplies what students need. If students want to acquire soft skills and experience, they must plan how to do it like a corporation, implement it like a corporation, and evaluate their “products” like a corporation, and improve their “products”. Not waste time and manifesto and propaganda that give way to fancy projects (attended by VIPs I’m sure) after the election. We as students are your priority. We always were and always will.
To end, I will give a warning. If any of your readers think this is a political motive message influence the outcome of the coming university election, then UPM and Malaysia has no hope. I just want my food cheap and healthy, my college’s water keep running and my exam result wont fail. Is that too hard to understand?
I know i shuld be making a real post of my own...sorry la..gt no time aldy...exams
Friday, October 17, 2008
Dating 101: Advance From Friend to Boyfriend
Four ways to make her see you in a different light
By Dating coach David Wygant Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Oct 13, 2008
Dating coach David Wygant
An interesting dating topic that always seems to come across my desk involves guys who have female friends they want to date. I get all versions of this dating question: "How do I get out of the friend zone and into the boyfriend zone?"
This topic is especially interesting to me right now because I am currently dating a woman with whom I started out being just friends. When I first met her, she was actually dating somebody else.
So how did I go from the friend zone to the boyfriend zone? Did I subliminally do some mind tricks to convince her that dating me would be a far better experience than the one she was having with her boyfriend? Absolutely not. What I did was I got to know her to get into the boyfriend zone.
Here are four tips to help you get a woman to look at you in a different way:
1.Don't sell yourself.
If you meet and become friends with a woman who has a boyfriend, don't sell yourself to her at all. Get to know her over a period of time. If a woman is attracted to you as a person, she could become attracted to you as a significant other. It all depends on where she is in her life.
We all know that many relationships tend to "go south" and end. The problem is that a lot of single men will meet a woman who is in a relationship and decide not to befriend her at all. I'm not suggesting that you become the shoulder she comes to cry on when things are going wrong with her boyfriend. But you can get to know her as a person, because you never know where life may lead you down the road. So don't be a salesman, and don't berate her boyfriend. Be yourself. Have a good time with her, and see if natural chemistry develops between you. When you are genuine and take the time to get to know her as a person, she might start to look at you in a different light and end her relationship.
2. Don't be afraid to express yourself.
“If you've already been friends for a long time and she's never thought about you in a romantic way, there's a good chance she'll never think of you romantically.”
If you've already been friends for a long time and she's never thought about you in a romantic way, there's a good chance she'll never think of you romantically. The way so many guys get themselves into the eternal friend zone is that they play it too safe when they first meet a woman. They act in a very passive-aggressive way toward her. They are so afraid of expressing any indication of their romantic interest that they go out of their way not to express any feelings toward her at all. For example, instead of really asking the woman out on a date, they ask her to hang out in a group. You will always end up in the friend zone in this situation, because you have never asked her out on a real date. If you're interested in a woman, you need to ask her out so it's clear to her that you are interested.
3. Be patient. Stop thinking about immediate gratification all the time. Not every woman you meet today is going to want to go out with you tonight. Think of befriending women as building a portfolio of interesting people with whom you can get together in the future. You need to treat the single women you meet as long-term investments. Just enjoy getting to know her as a person right now, because you never know what may happen. Chemistry just might spark between the two of you.
4. Be direct.
Don't ever ask a woman's friends to tell you about what she is thinking, and in particular do not ask them what she thinks about you. If you've got a crush on a female friend of yours, you need to call her and say, "You know what? I want to go out with you. You and I need to hang out alone." Make it clear to her that you want to go out on a date with her. It doesn't matter if she says yes or if she says no. It just matters that you take the chance.
“You will define the relationship one way or another, and then you can move forward.”
You will define the relationship one way or another, and then you can move forward.
Dating takes a lot of patience and perseverance. The best things in life, in fact, tend to pay off when you have patience and perseverance. No one is ever completely successful the first time they do something.
So start being willing to take your time. Take time to look at all the single women you've met in your life, and think about whether any of them stick out as being someone you'd like to get to know again. Perhaps she's someone you became friends with when you first met. Send her a text or call her on the phone. Who knows? She might be more receptive to you the second time around.
Friday, October 3, 2008
live a colourful life.
You can chose to be like everyone else;
You can chose to make a difference.
What is your choice?