Monday, August 31, 2009

I got my blog post published!

Yes! I contributed a post to this cool leadership blog.
It's called LiaV: Leadership is a verb.
Go check it out and read my post there too!

Here's a random video because I'm quite busy for today. Sorry...




Be.You
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Friday, August 28, 2009

Muhibah Wujud Apabila Kita Tidak Perlu Fikir Pasal Muhibah

Masa uni, dulu ada satu pertandingan menyanyi lagu patriotik kat kolej. Saya dapat tahu ada satu peserta menang kerana hakim nak tunjuk muhibah la. Saya tak setuju dengan tindakan ini. Kenapa? Kerana "Muhibah wujud apabila kita tidak perlu fikir pasal muhibah".

Muhibah. Perpaduan. Kebersamaan. Kesamarataan. Apabila kita mahu semua ideal ini dicapai, persoalan kaum tidak akan, tidak perlu menjadi isu di dalam sebarang pertimbangan. Di dalam kes pertandingan tadi, memilih peserta itu untuk nampak muhibah merupakan satu kelakuan yang sebaliknya dari membentuk muhibah. Kalau peserta tadi tahu, pasti dia tidak gemar. Sebab dia tidak dipilih kerana kemahirannya, dia tidak menang kerana dia sememangnya layak.


Lagi, satu. Kalau nak ada pun soal kaum perlu dipertimbangkan, tidak perlu didalam pertandingan kecil dan hal remeh-temeh seperti pertandingan menyanyi. Lebih baik kita tunjukkan muhibah dalam pemikiran kita apabila berdepan topik sensitif seperti topik ekonomi, agama, budaya, perundangan, polisi kerajaan dan sebagainya. Disitulah pertimbangan kaum akan membentuk muhibah.

Setiap kali kita nampak poster muhibah, aktiviti yang nak tunjukkan kemuhibahan; adalah satu peringatan bahawa kita semua muhibah. Perlu ke kita diingatkan kalau kita betul-betul muhibah? Betulkah kita muhibah? Macam saya katakan di atas "Muhibah wujud apabila kita tidak perlu fikir pasal muhibah". So betulkah? Saya rasa ada harapan untuk Malaysia.

Tapi muhibah tidak berlaku dengan kempen dan aktivti yang ditunjukkan kemuhibahannya. Ia tidak berlaku apabila pelajar pelbagai kaum dipaksa melakukan aktiviti pelajar bersama-sama. Ia tidak berlaku apabila pelajar pelbagai kaum melakukan projek bersama-sam untuk merit semata-mata dan bukan untuk berinteraksi. Malah, yang sebaliknya perlu berlaku!



Muhibah berlaku apabila semua berkerjasama ke satu arah, satu visi yang tidak ada kaitan dengan muhibah. Saya sangat bertuah kerana saya dapat berkerjasama dengan pelbagai jenis manusia semasa di universiti. Apabila suatu pasukan tidak kira bangsa bersatu dan berkerjasama apabila telah komited untuk mencapai visi yang telah dibentuk maka persoalan kaum menjadi tidak relevan. Dan apabila interaksi sebegini berlaku, maka terbentuknya peluang untuk lebih memahami diri masing-masing. Interaksi ikhlas dan terbuka memainkan peranan bukannya kempen-kempen yang gah.

"Muhibah Adalah Kesan/Simptom Daripada Perhubungan Telus dan Terbuka"

"Segregation brings ignorance. Which brings stereotypes. Which brings distrust. Which brings disunity. Which brings hatred. And Destruction"

"Diversity shields you from extremism and shallow mindedness. Segregation breeds them"
- Me

Be.You.
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Tuesday, August 25, 2009

The Truth About 'Balance' in life

It was a normal morning, stuck in a traffic jam. Rude drivers cutting through traffic and I let them pass. A friend of mine who was carpooling to work with me asked "Why do you let that happen?". I replied "Are we in a hurry? We always leave for work at this time and we reach the office with time to spare". "But you cannot let just people walk over you", he answered.

"I'm not". And I explained further. The Taipei 101 skyscraper was built to withstand earthquakes and storms. How? By being flexible where it can afford to, and being tough and stern where is must be. It also applies to our lives. In the case of my argument with my car pooling friend, I know I can afford to let some cars go by, because I have spare time to reach the office. But if it was a matter of life and death, then I wouldn't react in the same way. In a conflict you must know when to compromise and when to stand your ground. Sounds obvious right?


A lot of people would talk about 'balance' as far as how they navigate conflict but it is these same people are the ones not being able to uphold this balance. More often than not, they themselves are the ones who get mistreated in conflicts. There is no perfect 'balance', it is not practical.

The 'balance' can be attempted, which ultimately brings us to an acceptable range. However, people fail to do this for two reasons:
  • Lack of objective
  • Lack of defining their thresholds
  • Lack of self-awareness
When you do not know what you want in life, then you will not know what do you need to achieve it. If you do not know that, you will not know which aspects of your life that you should prioritize on and what you cannot compromise on. You would know your boundaries. All this wouldn't be a problem if you are honest and sincere with yourself, having a better understanding of who you are and what you want to be.

How do you balance your life?

Be. You.
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Saturday, August 22, 2009

4 Stages Of Creativity

I have seen many clubs that try to think of new ideas for projects in their club activities. The typical replies would be "Don't know", "No idea", "Cannot think of anything" and etc. They would say they have no creativity. Those are excuses. Everyone can achieve or train their themselves to be creative. All you need is to have the right attitude and know the steps and techniques that makes it easier for you to get ideas. These are the 4 steps of creativity.

  • Plagiarism (copy & paste)
  • Edit, modify, adapt
  • Inspire, Explore and Diversify (knowing how to find inspiration)
  • Pure creativity
Plagiarism
Yes, just copy and paste only. From other people's work (with permission, better la). From books and magazines. From the internet and many more. For me, Internet is enough to help me get ideas. Just use Google and try to see what concepts that would come. This is the era where information is free and very accessible. If we can copy paste work into our assignments, why cannot we do the same for our student clubs. There are so many topics of leadership, management and etc on the web. In fact, you can find the session templates that also teaches you how to conduct the session by YOURSELF! But unfortunately, student leadership does not know about this, or not even try to do it. The reason? It's not in their work culture to think outside the box, I wonder what are they doing in all the camps they go to? Anyway, this is the least you can do to get new ideas, which is by doing research. If you just say you don't have any ideas it means your lazy. Yes, Lazy.


Edit, modify, adapt
Plagiarism is not the most honourable thing to do, but it is a good way to start. The next level is to edit, modify and adapt the idea/information you obtained. How to edit and modify. There are a lot of techniques but the principle is you put a new element into an original idea and see how things change, hopefully a good idea will come out of it. I suggest using the SCAMPER technique. Finding a solution depends on how many different ways of looking at the problem,and that is what this technique does. Doing a brainstorming session is also something a student leader must learn (which obviously they do not), hopefully I can post an article how to do it at some later time. But at least I will share with you the 4 basic rules of brainstorming:

  • Focus On Quantity (No need to get good ideas all the time, get the momentum and the mood so the brainstorming will continue smoothly)
  • No Criticism (Don't try to show you're smart, a bad idea can lead to a good idea)
  • Unusual Ideas Are Welcome (Malaysians are always afraid to voice out, because they're afraid other people say their ideas are stupid, change this mindset!)
  • Combine And Improve Ideas (Be brave and mix and match ideas. Play around. See what happens, it's like playing cooking when you were small)
Inspire, Explore and Diversify
Watch those interviews with musicians and directors, what do they answer when asked "How do you get inspiration?". Do they answer "I squeeze my brain in group meetings, forcing other meeting attendants to give ideas"?, No!. They will say they will walk around, find inspiration from nature, listen to music, do anything and everything except sit in a meeting and and stare blankly at the table in front of him. You need to know how to get inspired by life, and your surroundings and get ideas from it. Observe how the late Yasmin Ahmad's work, it's so relate-able to us. She finds inspiration just by looking at the people around her. Ask yourself what inspires you in life?


Pure Creativity
Not many people have this talent. But I like to think I have it, but so far the creativity I have are mostly the first 3 steps of creativity I have. I don't think I have pure creative ideas yet. But I still believe I can. Why? Because when you believe you can, you will push yourself to what you believe you can do. Having that mindset is good to achieve pure creativity.
Also, pure creativty is a revolution and hard to come by. How many products and services are so new and innovative you can see aroung you. Walkman handphone= walkman + handphones. Handphones = phones + mobility. And many more examples. But they do happen. Great ideas are like diamonds waiting to be found. You just need to improve your creativity techniques until that 2 billion dollar idea pops in your mind.

Understand this. Ideas don't come to those who don't try to think of finding ideas. The people who don't give ideas in your club, cannot give ideas because they don't want to think about the idea or do not try to find ideas hard enough, or do not know how to find ideas. Ideas do not come to those who never try to make a difference for themselves. Ideas do not come for those who don't want to change or improve themselves.


Necessity, who is the mother of invention.
Plato, The Republic
Greek author & philosopher in Athens (427 BC - 347 BC)


Be.You.
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Friday, August 21, 2009

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Thursday, August 20, 2009

4 Elements of the Right Attitude

Not long ago, I have written a draft of what is needed to make a person successful. But, I would like to simplify and call it 'The Right Attitude". The draft is very long but for today I wan to share with you the 4 basic observation that I made which became the basis of the draft I made. They are:

  • Action Towards Life's dreams/goals
  • Reaction Towards Challenges/hardships/failure
  • Ability to Gather Knowledge and Wisdom
  • Ability to Control Your Emotion
Action Towards Life's dreams/goals
I see that there several ways people react to what they want to achieve in life. Some will believe and put maximum effort to achieve their goals. Most, don't have a dream or goal in life at all. Being ignorant, and having the que sera sera attitude. A large portion, say they have a goal, but not doing anything or doing the wrong things which does not contribute to their goals. For example, they would have subsidies and grants for their business but they misuse them for short term benefits. I also see pessimist, people who say they cannot even before trying. I'm frustrated with these kind of people the most, because if only they took a little more effort they will see oppurtonities open up for them.

Reaction Towards Challenges/Hardships/Failure
I also see that there are many people who respond differently to challenges/failures and hardships. A lot would stop and become paralyzed after a failure. Even worse, there are people who avoid them altogether. If you ever thought "That person is so good and clever, I will never do that, it's too hard..." Then, you are that kind of person. A challenge is to be overcome. Others will see a wall, and turn back. But you will overcome that barrier and reap the rewards of it, because you're the only one who overcame the wall, while others give up and turn back.


Ability to Gather Knowledge and Wisdom
If you're reading this and thinking, "Ah...this blog is full of fancy quotes and stuff. All Bull Sh**" That shows that you don't have the mentality, attitude and skill to collect knowledge, intelligence and wisdom. You don't appreciate the many forms of wisdom available. Learn how to gather wisdom and intelligence. If you have no wisdom, you are not smart. And if you are not smart, you cannot become successful. How do you get wisdom? You can start by reading this blog, or at least reading this post: 3 ways you can receive wisdom


Ability to Control Your Emotion
And lastly, the ability to control our emotion. Our emotion is a double-edged sword. It can hurt you, and others. But controlled, it would help you a lot in life. In life, conflict is certain. Avoiding conflict will make the problem bigger, trust me. In this case, you must learn how to communicate and find solutions. And this requires you to negotiate a lot. To do this well, you need to make sure your emotion is in check. If you are angry when you navigate a conflict, you will not have a sound mind to reflect your judgment and decisions, and would be biased in your analysis. Because of that, you will not take the right choices. I suggest reading this book to help you: How To Win Any Arguments

When all these elements come together, then, you have the necessary mindsets that makes sure you can achieve your success regardless what happens. Not other stuff like passion, or hard work and etc. Hard work is a symptom, an effect, of having the first and/or second element as part of your mindset/mentality.

At the end of the day, it is up to you to make a difference for yourself.

Be. You.

Sunday, August 16, 2009

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Wednesday, August 12, 2009

3 Ways To Know You Are Realistic Or Not

In a planning meeting have you encountered a situation where there is a disagreement whether the goal for the project is too high or too low. For example, you think getting 1000 people attending your carnival is too high...but your boss thinks it's possible. Well, today I'm going to share 3 ways you can know whether you are realistic or delusional.

  • Growth Rates
  • Supply & Demand
  • Benchmark


These 3 steps are to give a realistic goal so that:
  • It's not so low that its waste your full potential
  • It's not so high that it will demotivate the team during preparation and implementation
  • It's not so high that it will disappoint the team and destroy team synergy for future projects

Before I go on, please get as much information about the project you want to do from your senior (previous committee), and from competing clubs that are doing similar projects. Get information like the duration of the project (preparation and actual implementation of the project), number of committee members and etc.


Growth Rates

I work in a marketing research firm now. We measure the 'health' of an industry. One way we do it is to measure the growth rate. We find the industries' market revenue of last year and this year, and then calculate it's percentage growth. We then classify the growth rate as below:

5-10% growth Low
10-15% growth Medium
25-75% growth High
>75% growth Explosive Growth

So, you should apply this your project also. Remember, this is what an MNC use as it's standard, OK. Anyway, if last year, your project only get 300 people coming, you cannot say suddenly that the current project you want to get 1000 people, that's unlikely. You can say shoot for the star, land on the moon and whatever but this is the accepted standard among professionals so use it. A 300% increase is an explosive growth unless...you plan to do something special to get the 1000 people, which brings me to my next point...


Supply & Demand

So you say you can get 1000 people because you want to do something extra, right? What is it? If you want the people coming to your project increase 300% you must make sure something the committee is doing also increases 300% also. What is it? 300% more committee members? 300% more funds/money? 300% more hours per day spent on the project (very unlikely). These are some examples, make sure they are measurable, because if you say 3oo% 'work harder' or 'work smarter', 'be more creative', 'be passionate', 'we work together' and etc. Most probably it won't happen, it's subjective so people don't care. Read Laws of Teamwork.


Benchmark
So now you know whether your growth is realistic or not, and you considered whether your supply matches your demand. But let's say you don't have data of previous years. Now, what you can do is to take your competitor's data (who are doing similar projects), and redo the first two techniques I shared earlier.

Warning!
Of Course, there are several things that is not considered in this analysis that might contribute to the success of our project compared to others, especially things outside of our power but as leaders we focus on things we can control, our circle of influence.



Once you have a clear mind, the team agrees and sincerely commits to your goal (no use, if you're the only one in the team who is positive thinking), then the rest depends on having a positive outlook, hard work and luck.

Be.You.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Children Learn What They Live

Children Learn What They Live (1998)

by Dorothy Law Nolte (1924 - 2005)

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Excerpted from the book CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE
©1998 by Dorothy Law Nolte and Rachel Harris
The poem "Children Learn What They Live"
©Dorothy Law Nolte
All Rights Reserved

Taken from http://www.noogenesis.com/pineapple/Kristone.html

PS: What did you learn when you grew up? Just had convo...my own post sunday...

Friday, August 7, 2009

Seeds of Success: Knowing That You Can

You Can, It's Just That You Don't Believe You Can

NLP or Neurolinguistic programming describes the importance of believing in what you say. If you were to say you are a success, than you will become a success. And you will not, if you keep saying otherwise. Now, don't just suddenly start saying to yourself, you’re successful again and again. It only works if you BELIEVE that you can. NLP says that when you say, you believe. When you believe, you do. Sounds easy and very obvious, right? But people still don't do it. They doubt themselves. When you doubt yourself, NLP still works. If you doubt whether you are successful or not, then you will become unsuccessful. For me, I choose to believe I can be successful, regardless of the situation. Because when you believe (even in a problematic situation), you then start finding solutions to the problem.



But I am Human too, I have doubts too. But fear and doubt is there for you to be careful, it’s not there to prevent you from succeeding. Having doubts easily decrease 50% motivation to 0% but it takes so hard to change 50% motivation to 100% motivation. Why? I have been writing so many times about being confident and believing in yourself but have you seen anybody who gets so motivated by it? Why is it so easy to de-motivate? I choose to learn how to motivate myself regardless of my situation.
Anyway, you are worrying too much, like I said, if there is a problem you overcome it. It’s as easy as that. Below is an excerpt on how to deal with fear:

87% never happen
7% actually occur
6% you will have some influence over the outcome
This means that most things in life that you worry about won’t happen and that you have little to control over the few things that do happen/ So it doesn’t pay to worry about the things you fear.


"Poor People Avoid Risk. Rich People Manage Risk."

My father told me this. If you see then believe, it's normal. But if you believe first, then you see...it belongs to you. For example, when you believe the potential in a business idea of yours, and you manage to turn it into reality, it's yours. So believe in yourself.


Don't say, "I have no talent as a leader", "I'm not smart like you" and etc. That kind of thinking brings no good to you. We are young. We should never be afraid. You should read "Think And Grow Rich" to see how damaging that kind of thinking is. Talent is irrelevant. Even if it is, that is not in your control but intentions and effort is always in our hands.

Have the desire. Not following your desire and giving excuses shows that you really don't desire it so much. Don't make excuses. Understand what you really want. Commit to it. Find solutions to overcome it. Doubt is there to stop you from making mistakes not to stop you from achieving more.

Understand at the end of the day, these excuses you made - only you will accept it, everyone else doesn't give a sh*t. At the end of the day, the conflict is between you and yourself. At the end of the day, you and only you are responsible for the actions that you do or don't do.

Just Do It! Be.You.

How to read my blog?

Today, I want to share how you can apply what I am teaching in my blog in your life...

Threshold and Direction

Threshold
It means a point/level where a change will happen. Or read here for webster definition...

When I say you are not an entrepreneur when you're selling dadih/keropok that means that is below the level you need to do to become a successful entrepreneur. I would say you need to read books, focus on studies and focus the development of proper entrepreneur mindsets and mentalities. That is the minimum, if you do not focus on developing mindset, you're not going to be successful. Selling dadih at university is below the limit/the threshold so that means you are not making a differences for yourselves. Refer back to why entrepreneurship is needed, I am referring my threshold on the objectives of increasing economic standards for the Malays, creating jobs and attracting foreign investments. Can selling dadih do that?


Direction
I admit I am not s experienced to know what is the threshold exactly but at least I do know to a certain extent where it lies. Even if I do not know I am experienced enough to know the 'direction' that is needed. When I'm doing the articles like Laws of Teamworking and SMART Goal Setting I am giving you a direction. I am telling you this is the way, the focus you must put effort into if you want to achieve success in your project and etc. If you aren't able to achieve it, it's okay. Better than investing your time and effort on the wrong things.

The thing is there are people who say other people's analysis is 'general'. Fine, but how specific can you be, practically? So I wrote this as a guide to read my guide to the issues I talk about in my blog.

Be.You.

Who Should Read My Blog?

  1. Student Leaders
  2. Students
  3. Youths
  4. People who like to talk about philosophy, life, politics and career.


Student Leaders Who Want To Lead
Leaders and passionate contributing members of their respective student clubs and organizations. Here I share management techniques and principles that will help these people to run the organization and it's members effectively. I personally think these kind of education is seriously lacking in student clubs, where most clubs say they are teaching leadership but end up exploiting members to do highschool level projects and/or force members to join endless ineffective camps with 'games' that are not practical in real life. See more here.



Students Who Want To Excel
Studies is Important but that doesn't there's only one way to do it. Explore, Learn, and Share new ways to excel in uni life and in life after that. How to do your final year project's survey online?
Youth
There is more to life than CGPA pointers, work and etc. We should think about the word we live in. Have integrity and character in your personality, learn philosphy and have a curios nature towards your surrounding.

People who like to talk about philosophy, life, politics and career
I like to talk about these topics, because it's important to questions these things so we can have the proper mindset and mentality to ensure our success. I'm sure I'm not the only one. Even if you are not uni students or youths, you can still read my blog and give comments and etc.

Whoever you are, I'm sure you can benefit from reading my blog it's just that when I write the posts in these blogs...I meant it for youths, specifically universiti students.



Tuesday, August 4, 2009

How To Win Any Arguments


Today, I want to suggest to you this book titled "How to win any arguments". I want to say that most of you might know that I like to shoot/criticize people in this blog. But I never do this if I'm talking one-to-one confrontation. The reason being is that an emotion fuelled debate is not healthy especially if you're meeting face-to-face. If you end up fighting you're not going to solve the issue. How did I know this? From this book I'm going to share with you...

The good thing about this book is that's it's very well planned. The chapters, articles and points are separated into easy to understand chunks of information. I'll give you snippet of the book with my own take of it

Construct A Consent Zone
People won't listen if the atmosphere/mood of the argument is negative and aggressive so consent zone refers to the mood where all parties are able to discuss objectively. Winning an argument is not about winning a fight, it's about making your opponent understand yur point of view and agreeing to your suggestion or a compromise. Example, if you win an argument with your customer, but the customer don't want to buy from you, did you really won the argument?

6 Mistakes That Destroys The 'Consent Zone'
  • Complain: Don't say "You're Unfair", "You're Unreasonable"
  • Look Back (Mengungkit): People look back just to critisize
  • Judging the other's person action/thoughts: Don't use words like wrong, stupid, crazy & etc
  • Say "What is your problem?"
  • Ask "Why can't you be reasonable?"
  • Corner a person by revealing his/her wrong doing:That's an invitation to fight
Sorry, cannot write more, don't want want to breach copyrights, anyhow this one of the things discussed inside. Not only does it help you to win arguments but also teaches you the attitude and mentality that you must have when facing conflicts and challenges in life. I highly recommend.

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